♥ HEARTWHISPERS... ♥

Sometimes the most healing gift we can give someone

 is to just be a witness to the pain and chaos of their life experiences. 

Certainly we are incapable of explaining why 

the big mysteries come upon us as they do. 

There are times when offering explanations even adds to the confusion.

 Sometimes the wisest position to take 

is to let a friend pour out her sorrow and rage, 

her anger and fear - 

listen to the big scream - 

and not flinch.

 Just listen and let the shock waves run over you

 like the sounds of screaming children 

who will gradually calm down and fall asleep from exhaustion. 

Painful life passages are exhausting, 

especially when mixed with mystery.

 You don't know when they will end - 

and you can even begin to believe they will never end.

 But they always come to an end. 

Screaming children always stop screaming - 

even the loudest ones. 

But you can begin to believe they can actually scream forever - 

and they can't tell you why.

 It's a mystery. 

You can only do your best to make sure nothing is seriously wrong 

and then make them as comfortable as possible. 

But imagine if you were not there...

how traumatic would that be for that child? 

Or for a friend' inner child that is absorbing the fear of a life transition? 

We are all standing in the Witness position of someone or something. 

It is a powerful place to stand.

 A prayer for the Witness in us that I find useful is, 

"Let the grace if healing flow through me and into this person's life. 

May that grace dissolve the fears of mind and heart. 

Hover over this human being, 

Lord, with mercy and love."

—Caroline Myss